Angry is as angry does!—Feeling angry is normal and healthy. Learning to express anger appropriately is difficult for most people. Anger can turn into depression, guilt or anxiety, if not dealt with positively. This presentation will examine the many faces of anger, violence, depression and manipulation and offer specific guidelines for learning healthy ways of expressing anger and dealing with other people’s anger when it is directed at us.
Anger and the recovery process—Anger is a normal and healthy emotion but learning to express anger is difficult for people who have lived in chemically dependent or other stressful situations. This workshop is not only for the recovering problem drinker, but for the spouse and adult children of the chemically dependent person. It offers specific guidelines for learning healthy ways to acknowledge and express anger.
Love and addiction—Addictive love is limiting. It limits our capacity for intimacy and our ability to truly love another as an equal. It limits our personal power and freedom. This presentation will examine the differences between mature and immature love, provide a profile of healthy belonging and offer participants an opportunity to work on their own issues of establishing and maintaining on-going, meaningful interpersonal relationships.
How to make peace with the past—Our here and now conflicts with spouses, children, ex-spouses, partners, are in part emotional re-enactments from the past. The unresolved conflicts we had with our parents seem to reappear to affect our adult relationships. This presentation will provide strategies for healing the past, so it has less impact on our present feelings and behaviors and as a result, enriches our present relationships.
Be ye perfect-mission impossible!—The biblical admonition, “Be ye perfect”, often has been misunderstood and even abused. To strive for excellence, to achieve, to be successful, differs from an unhealthy perfectionism. Perfectionism is at the root of many harmful messages we received as children, which carry over into our adult lives, producing guilt, anger, low self, addiction, etc. Participants will learn how to recover from those toxic, shaming messages.
Shame! Shame! Shame!—If you grew up in a family where there was a lot of stress, you learned certain role, rules and behaviors, which produce a lot of guilt and shame and which we usually pass on to our children. This presentation will assist you in learning new ways of dealing with the effects of growing up in a high stress family where shaming and blaming were the norm.
Helping the helper heal: Clinician heal thyself—Helping professionals are not immune to the stress and pressure in their personal and professional lives. There is often a very fine line between caring and behaviors that produce “compassion fatigue”. This presentation will assist helping professionals to renew their commitment as compassionate caregivers; create a balance between caring and “co-dependent” behaviors and provide techniques for self-caring that will generate peace and serenity.
Self-care for the caregiver—Americans are living longer and their care is falling to children they once cared for or to a spouse who may still be working. While caring for a spouse or parent may be rewarding, it can also be exhausting, taking its toll on our emotions, our finances, our jobs, our families and on our own health. This presentation will provide primary or long distant caregivers resources and tools to support their role as caregiver and skills to take care of themselves.
The sandwich generation: Honor thy father and mother but be a good parent—An increasing number of adults find themselves in the position of a parenting their own children and being a caregiver for their aging parents. This presentation will examine the issues that this dual role creates and offer support and solutions for the stress, frustration guilt and anger that being in the middle of two generations often creates.